question of melanie campbell : man hiding financial difficulties from me !!?
just found a letter in the mail today, from our mortgage company (mortgage Hubby in name). He says that our mortgage is 90 days überfällig.Wir have just the house for a year in property. We have a good deal on it, two weeks after we bought it we had our second child (shes a year). I was a student (I’m 26), when I’m pregnant, and was in school full time with a student loans to pay for school, so my name is not on the mortgage ist.Er makes good money, and told me I should stay home with the kids (where we live day care costs so much money is it not working for me possible to make money). So stay at home I have done. I actually have a job for a few months, but the daycare cost so much I was earning barely enough after taxes, day care and transportation. So husband and I have talked about it and he said I should stop because he enough money for us to be in order. As he put it. “It is tight, but we will do well and still able to be with our family things to extra money,” We need a new car for months, ours is about to die on us. He considers it by saying wantsd to us until they die then buy a new drive will work, I fine with (might as well go until we can no longer and save a few car payments!). He likes to spend money, much, just small things that will add-up his fishing equipment, hockey, baseball, for lunch at work, this type of Dingen.Wir are getting married in 3 weeks. Now that I found out that he was not paying the mortgage is in default (it happened when we first bought the house, and we paid for it up really fast, we just did not understand how financially difficult one house with two children would be). However, he hid it from me then auch.Grundsätzlich we are in debt (other than our regular mortgage) of students and personal loans, and arrears on our Hypothek.Ich trying to find a way to sort out everything and get it taken care of. I am seriously considering calling before the wedding, because I do not want to be lied to about something as large as possible to protect our homeland, especially since we have 2 children! DO! How can I pay a little more money from their own home from that debt? I’m pretty frugal (cloth diapering, nursing the baby store, brand food, clothing, second hand, foot, if possibel gas money to save something!) I’m at my wit’s end and do not know what this debt to do, let alone our relationship. Help! Does anyone elses debt caused relations to an end? I’m freaking otu and feeling bad about this. The worst thing is that I’m not surprised … hurt and crying because it is so frustrating that he is as financially irresponsible. I want to take to ensure financial things paid for, but he says there is no way he’s let me do Best Answer.
response of Yoda ™ His McFluffykins (my cat)
I do not know how to sort all this with no cooperation from him, but I say you do not need to marry him . One of the biggest things that people need to discuss before marriage finances, your the barren one and he is the Big Spender. They are both actually agree on finances. He is not helping the situation. Money is to end one of the top 5 causes relationships. He is doing well that you take over the finances so things paid for, because he be his hiding things from you. Call Off The Wedding, while you still can.
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