How do i establish proper money boundaries with my girlfriend?
Saturday, November 6th, 2010 question of Kyta Trackl : How to establish proper relationship boundaries with my girlfriend ?
My friend met me when I was financially screwed. My business was down the tubes and I was always broke. I tried to clean up my money situation and finally found a job and I try to pay off my debts. My friend helped me a lot in little ways ($ 10 here, pack of cigarettes is pulling me out for lunch or dinner) and it was a gift from heaven. I was always so reserved, so they would usually ask only anbieten.Jetzt I work and I make 50% more than it is. I am happy to help her because she was so good to me when I was down financially. But to feel his position as I am an ATM. All they helped me with his as an extra zero. Where they shoot me would buy $ 10 or $ 20 or me a pack of smokes now they ask for $ 100, $ 200, even $ 700. Where we eat dinner or breakfast for like $ 25 now use when I need them to take me to places that cost $ 60 – $ 75 for the food. Then she takes me to Taco Bell to have Abendessen.Wir together six months and things seem to work well. She wanted jewelry for our 6 mo anniversary and birthday, they had set a $ 400 ring in the head. It was a good deal, so I offered to go half-ERS with her that it was fair she liked the ring realliy abgebildet.Gut, that is where it starts to go a bit wrong. It is time for the ring to pay (they put a $ 50 deposit on it) and she asked me last night, on if I could another $ 150 is because it does have the money, in addition to the $ 200 that I offered. I’m still only catching up on my second paycheck from my new job and I try, they owe me another $ 100 from a loan from earlier so things are a little narrow. I told her I wasn’t sure if I could, that Id have to check my account and see just how much I left and told her the things a little eng.Nun later she wanted to McDonalds and asked me if I had money . I didn’t have any cash with me and I went over to her house later that night, so I gave her my bank card. When I got there, she told me that she saw there was $ 369 in the account, so they took out the $ 200 for the ring plus another $ 160 for her part, leaving me with only $ 9. I was astounded. I need to work and transit fares are $ 8 per day, plus I smoke, that cost me about $ 8 per day. She said she would pay me back in a few days, but I was very nervous, because I cannot get to work and back and buy a pack of smokes for $ 9. They didn’t even ask me, and they cleaned out of my account! Well, I stayed there the night, and it drew me really, really well (u know what I mean), but I woke up like 3:30 in the morning and couldnt sleep again because I was completely broke out OK – in case not in a position to work with (I talk on the phone in sales at work so smoking for a few days only because it would be a bad idea) and perhaps not even ready to get in a position to work at all – all have a ring that she wants to really bad, but they blew their für.Plus part of the money before it was borrowing some money for me for their medication, ($ 75), then cover for their being short on rent ($ 200), then a bit more to their deficit in her rent ($ 100), she got her hair and make shopping go to winners, to play poker. I was not rich, but I was happy to help her out when she needed it, but always made the hair, go shopping and go to the casino is pretty crap for optional stuff so hearing about their antics, after I have more than $ 375 for neccesities had forked was a bit annoying. She wanted to pay me back $ 200, that the money, and I wrote the $ 75 for the drugs, as discussed officially wasn’t a “credit”, but she still owes me $ 100 and they are looking for another $ 150 to pay 400 U.S. dollars ring that I was only in for $ 200 and that was a stretch, but I thought a nice promise ring would be a good gift sein.Sie know what I feel, is a gambling problem … which makes things a bit worse … I fear that with these loans is that they money for the “rent”, which means, in effect, they will spend or already spent some of her rent money on gambling and wants to be safe when they lose it can be covered. play for me is just a great way to make money on fire and watch it light up in Rauch.Das girl is in a “no money problems between us” and I feel the same philosophy, but I think I need begin establishing some limits. In my first two checks in my new job I’ve thrown $ 1000 on my catching up on their debt and $ 500 (including loans, gifts, dinner, gas, smoke – without the ring I’m talking about buying gift thats another $ 200) and only about $ 350 to mich.Ich would not encounter as cheap, but somehow I want my money for me auch.Also what I did was in the middle of the night when I couldnt sleep, I get $ 300 of the $ 350 they took from my account back from her purse and nahmSo she called and she was so excited that I go through their wallet without consulting her. I told her I was pretty nervous, because if they pay me back ASAP as I could be screwed and couldnt go to work. She began to speak, as I do not trust her and said I needed her trust, and said if I couldnt pay for smokes to / from work or they would cover it. She seemed pretty choked, but not blazing anger or nothing. I dont mind paying eligible for the $ 200 for the ring, I even promised that money aside, his cleaning out all my money to this thing that I do not like it when I like $ 150 for 10 days I have deal with it can, but whacked to $ 9 and forced to ask for this, and the other thing to pay them back I can handle I dont think I’ve kann.Ich just noticed that my original question was cut off … But in addition, the girl isn’t bad for me, she gave me a laptop for our anniversary and always lent me her iPod. I just noticed that she has extended her hand to almost every corner and when I finally started making money again, I somehow arrange my debts and wanted some money for me too. Just because I’m now have my money I should spend all of it or loan it out.I havent even addressed the issue of their inclusion of my statement: “Now I have to check my account and see if I can do that, a bit tight at the moment “without clearing it now then my bank card to McDonald’s and withdrawing $ 360 from me. I think this is a kind of tit-for-tat complain to her that Id go through their wallet … I was just back my own money that they asked me not to take from me … and I even had $ 50, it wasn’t broke. I dont like to be in this situation very unpleasant place my money Best Answer.
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need to get rid of the girl. it is dir.oder but you need to get her to sit down and talk about a serious talk with her about Geld.warum would you give someone your debit card
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